Mercy Women & Infants' Center - Bereavement Services
When faced with the potential death of a newborn or stillborn birth, parents may feel unprepared for the emotions they find themselves experiencing. Know that the feelings of loss, grief, anger and distance from those closest to you are normal and Mercy has created a support system to help address your questions, navigate decisions, provide you with resources, mementos and gentle support.
“There are cycles and movement of grief. As seasons change so do feelings. There is water and there are tears, there is winter and there is spring, there is sadness and there is hope.” - Rana Limbo, RTS Resolve Through Sharing.
For more information about the Maternal Child Bereavement Program, please call Ann Valdez, Bereavement and Perinatal Hospice Coordinator, at (515) 358-3030.
Mercy Women & Infants' Center - Perinatal Hospice
Mercy’s Perinatal Hospice program is for you and your family, to help guide you through this difficult time and let you know that you are not alone.
If you are reading this, you may feel as if your world has just been turned upside down. You probably have many questions.
- Why me? Why my baby?
- How can it be that my baby will not survive?
- How can I make it to tomorrow, much less to the end of this pregnancy?
- What do I tell my family?
We want to help you through this most difficult of times. We understand the love that you have for this baby. From that love will come the strength and courage you need to make it through. The Mercy Perinatal Hospice Program is here for you and your family, to help guide you through the anger, the pain and the grief that will at times seem too much to bear.
You are not alone in your grief. Each year one of every 100 newborns has medical problems severe enough to cause death. These problems are not of your doing, but rather occur for reasons as yet unknown. We don’t pretend to have all the answers, but we will provide the support and help that you need to find comfort at this difficult time.
Coping with Grief
The path that you are on is not one that you chose. You might have numbness or feelings of guilt. You might have feelings of jealousy and pain. You might have confusion or disorientation. You might have anger. You may not know where to begin. We want you to know that we are here to support you in ways that are helpful to you and your loved ones.
What can we do?
- We are here to be by your side.
- We are here to be a shoulder of support.
- We are here to listen and explore with you.
- We are here to look for answers with you.
- We are here to teach you about delivery expectations and make a plan for the birth.
- We are here to discuss your concerns about the care of your child.
- We are here to address questions you might have that regard financial burdens.
“Each phase in my journey allows me to explore where I am right now. By accepting that I am where I must need to be, I am free to live today. “- Dr. Alan Wolfelt
For more information about the Mercy's Perinatal Hospice, please call Ann Valdez, Bereavement and Perinatal Hospice Coordinator, at (515) 358-3030.
Mercy's Walk to Remember
Mercy Perinatal Hospice and Bereavement programs have this annual event dedicated to babies who die each year through miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, stillbirth or newborn death – as a part of the National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month in October. The walk also symbolically joins people nationwide who are working to raise awareness of perinatal grief and ensure sensitive care is given to parents who experience the death of a baby.
Family, friends and children are welcome to attend. The program includes a children’s activity, a memorial service and a walk on Mercy’s Central Campus to the Memory Garden where the timeless love of our children will be honored at the Angel of Hope statue. A reception will follow for time to share.
This year's event will take place on Sunday, Oct. 7. Participants are welcome to make a keepsake starting at 1:30 p.m. The program will start at 2 p.m. in the East Tower Auditorium.
Mercy offers a comprehensive support team with the focus on providing the parents and family members with the love, care and support they need during this difficult time. View the video below to learn more about our team.